What happens when moral distinctions slowly disappear? More precisely, what happens when categories of decency and deviancy collapse into each other? What happens to a culture that adopts our actions as our identities and by extension normalizes our desires as human rights regardless of how they may violate preexisting moral understandings? These are important questions that as both a Christian and a parent trouble me as I seek to raise my children to be discerning while engaging the culture they participate in without becoming a casualty of amoral and distinction-less group think.
The initial question that confronted me was this, what is the social consequence of the normalization of deviancy? In other words, how do we say no to our children, how do we set boundaries for them when the world around them teaches that the restriction of “any expression” or realization of a desire is an abomination. That in fact admonitions to abstain and flee homosexual acts and desires, sex before marriage, etc, are sinful restrictions of their own self-discovery and realization. How do we parent in a world that is increasingly telling us that nothing is truly wrong?
One thing that we mustn’t do is be afraid to be quite clear that dressing up sin as righteousness is not love. That it isn’t love that wins when when the moral law is sidestepped or denied in the name of deviancy, but idolatry. “Love Wins” is not a victory for humanity but a declaration of our rebellion before God. Never has been Romans 1:21-28 been more real to me.
(21) For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. (22) Claiming to be wise, they became fools, (23) and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things.
(24) Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, (25) because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.
(26) For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; (27) and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.
(28) And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to [a]a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.Romans 1:21-28 ESV